Alright, let’s talk about how I tried to become one of those “attractive guys”. It all started when I was scrolling through some social media and got this idea that I needed to be the “man of my dreams” for someone. Sounds cheesy, I know, but that’s what kicked things off.
First, I thought, “What does it even mean to be the ‘man of my dreams’?” I did a bit of digging, and it seemed like it was all about being the ideal partner someone would want. Okay, cool. But how do I get there?
I started with some self-reflection. I needed to figure out what I was all about. So, I made a list of my interests, my values, what I liked and didn’t like. It was kinda weird, to be honest, like writing a profile for myself. But hey, it was a start.
- I realized I loved playing guitar, but hadn’t picked it up in ages.
- I valued honesty but found myself telling white lies sometimes.
- I hated being late but was always rushing out the door.
Then, I thought about what I wanted in a partner. This part was easier. I jotted down things like “sense of humor,” “kindness,” “loves dogs,” and so on. It felt like ordering a custom-made person, which is kinda messed up when you think about it. But whatever, I went with it.
Working on Myself
Next, I decided to work on my flaws. I figured nobody wants to be with someone who’s not trying to be better, right? So, I started being more honest, even when it was uncomfortable. I practiced my guitar again, which was rough at first but got better. And I made a serious effort to be on time, setting like five alarms in the morning.
I also tried to be happier with my own company. I started doing things I enjoyed by myself, like going to the movies, trying new restaurants, and hiking. It was awkward at first, but then it became pretty awesome. I felt more independent and less needy, which I guess is a good thing.
Loving Myself
This part was the hardest: learning to love myself. I started focusing on my good qualities and not beating myself up over my mistakes. I tried to accept my imperfections and be kinder to myself. It wasn’t like flipping a switch, but gradually I started feeling more confident and comfortable in my own skin.
At the end of the day, I realized that trying to become an “attractive guy” wasn’t just about attracting someone else. It was about becoming a better version of myself, someone I could be proud of. And that’s way more important than any “dream” partner.
So, yeah, that’s my story. It’s not perfect, and I’m still working on it, but I think I’m on the right track. It’s all about knowing yourself, working on your flaws, and loving who you are. Cheesy, I know, but it’s true.
